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Sunday, March 25, 2012

Pleasure Centered?



Yes, it’s been almost a year since I last posted on the blog. Reason? Well like I mentioned earlier, blogging is more like a way of relieving myself from mental stress. Having graduated from school and working nine to five doesn’t let me be in that situation any more. It feels numb rather than stressful. And this numbness apparently feels cured only with a bit of ‘entertainment’ on Sundays. The more entertainment one indulges in, the more bearable corporate numbness feels. Or so it was until I came across this paragraph in Stephen Covey’s book a moment ago that I am going to discuss below.
He speaks about factors that determine our life – wisdom, security, guidance and power. Covey explains how these life-support factors and the lives of people often revolve around certain centers. Some of the centers that most people let their wisdom, security, guidance and power depend on include spouses, families, money, work, possession and – it was rather surprising when I came across – pleasure.
The surprise was partly because pleasure centeredness is something that I feel guilty of being a victim of and that too unsuspectingly (which is even worse). So without further ado, I’ll share the paragraph that speaks of Pleasure Centeredness in Stephen Covey’s book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

‘Another common center, closely allied with possessions, is that of fun and pleasure. We live in a world when instant gratification is available and encouraged. Television and movies are major influences in increasing people’s expectations. They graphically portray what other people have and can do in living the life of ease and ‘’fun’’.
But while the glitter of pleasure-centered lifestyles is graphically portrayed, the natural result of such lifestyles – the impact on the inner person, on productivity, on relationships – is seldom accurately seen.
Innocent pleasures in moderation can provide relaxation for the body and mind and can foster family and other relationships. But pleasure, per se, offers no deep, lasting satisfaction or sense of fulfillment. The pleasure-centered person, too soon bored with each succeeding level of ‘’fun’’, constantly cries for more and more. So the next new pleasure has to be bigger and better, more exciting, with a bigger ‘’high’’.
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Malcolm Muggeridge writes ‘’ Twentieth-Century Testimony’’
When I look back on my life nowadays, which I sometimes do, what strikes me most forcibly about it is that what seemed at the time most significant and seductive, seems now most futile and absurd. For instance, success in all of its various guises; being known for and being praised; ostensible pleasures, like acquiring money or seducing women, or traveling, going to and fro in the world and up and down in it like Satan, explaining and experiencing whatever Vanity Fair has to offer.
In retrospect all these exercises in self-gratification seem pure fantasy, what Pascal called, ‘’licking the earth’’.’


Given my current state of affairs, I can’t agree with this excerpt more. May be instant gratification has become necessary for those trapped in money-churning lifestyles to prevent them from becoming robots, to let them remember that they are humans. Perhaps it is an extreme that has evolved to cure another. But is the cure permanent? I wonder if I will have thoughts at the end of my life similar to those of Malcolm Muggeridge.

Monday, May 31, 2010

Someone's Obsessed with my Blog

"Great minds discuss ideas. 
Average minds discuss events. 
Small minds discuss people." 


Well, I am not categorizing my little mind into any one of the three categories mentioned by Roosevelt above but in general I don't like talking about people a lot. Or even if I do, I talk about ideas way too much out of proportion. ( yes, I talk a lot )... But there are sometimes when some exceptional people push me to talk about them. Either their being outstandingly praiseworthy or being someone really turning off, makes me express my views about them. 

But again, while praising someone, one can go on and on about it in front of anyone but saying something negative isn't a good thing no matter how bad the person you are talking about is. So, the one good way of venting out one's feelings I find is to just talk about the kind of people who turn you off.

Here is one kind that ruin my mood...

Anonymous Stalker!

Its kind of strange. I have never been stalked before, neither in reality nor on cyberspace ( in fact I don't really know if I have..) ... but strange it is that my poor, improperly attended to, unattractive, uncontroversial, mediocre blog is being stalked just too badly ... poor baby





Someone in 'Islamabad' (Feedjit isn't good at locating individuals precisely withing a state or a country) who uses Windows XP and browses the internet through Internet Explorer visited my blog 11 times in the past 10 hours!! The 'Karachi, Sindh' person using Google Chrome and Vista is me, ya. 

How weird it feels... Imagine someone anonymous who has nothing to do in the entire wide world but to visit your poor little blog no less than an hour later, again and again... weird, weird feeling it is, I tell you :s

Another kind that turns me off is that of :

Fallacious Arguers 


 And this interesting person comments too using snide remarks and fallacious arguments filled with intended sarcasm... But again, its not about one person.




The point is that well, I have always loved diversity. Having lived for more than ten years where you can find people from all around the world...Palestinians, Malaysians, Britishers, Egyptians, Indians, Mexicans, Australians, etc... I have always loved diversity from the bottom of my heart. The very sight of people dressed in different ways, the very sound in a quiet shopping store filled with a soft humming mixture of different languages has always made me feel like home because that's how I was brought up. But no matter how diversity-loving I become some things will never cease to turn me off. People such as stalkers, and fallacious arguers, not to mention blamers, sarcastic fighters... they just destroy what little bit peace we have on earth.

And btw, I am no angel. In fact everyone of us has bits of these unwanted kinds of people in them in varying degrees. Right after criticizing someone, or a certain kind of people, I look back at my own self in the mirror and try to see my own errors and try to live up to the species I am, Human.